Crazy little thing called Love!!!

It doesn’t take genius to figure out when you’re in love. When the butterflies have settled down and the love train chugs off, trouble is but a trifle away. Most love birds decide to take it a notch higher by getting married.
Marriage is not a bed of roses and that is one of the truest statements down the ages. Marriage is built on two founding pillars - love and trust. If love dies, trust dies with it. The vice versa is also true. Your spouse has to be a friend first, a compelling love and the reason that makes tomorrow worthwhile. It’s difficult to keep the fire burning through the entire span of a marriage. Pressures of work, children, extended family, health conditions and constant friction on mundane issues bring in a gap. It is easy to carry on living a lie but it is detrimental to physical and emotional well being. Some people suffer from clinical depression when boredom, intense sadness, helplessness or sheer disappointment set in. In this gloomy picture what makes love shine through rose tinted glasses?
Man is a gregarious animal as we all know. Scientifically being in love is a healthy thing. It improves circulation, boosts emotional well being, which in turn, improves immunity. It leaves one with a smile on your face and pushes aging a little further down the road. It makes your heart stronger and your blood pressure improves. We all know that science doesn't shape our lives and decisions do. Just as much as we would like to see our careers grow with constant and consistent hard work, marriage too needs constant and consistent effort. It is difficult to stay anchored in everyday life with emotional stress. Emotional stress ruins everything and translates itself in direct and indirect ways into various areas of our life. Our beings groan when we come in contact with our families, friends and even our professions. Restlessness comes in once disappointment leaves. The result – extra marital affairs in reality or fantasy.
The most common complaint in any relationship is acceptance. Expecting and forming a framework, for the person to fit in, is wrong. When we were shown objects as children we never argued that a square was a circle. The same rule applies. Accepting a person unconditionally having no expectations is what unconditional love chooses to achieve. At the same time, no one can live with a sadist, cheat or a cold person eternally in perfect peace. We need to be our own critic. Constant self examination into the inner man is necessary. Keeping arguments objective is necessary too. Constant emotional friction leads to nowhere and its better to part company than be compelled to irrational decisions.
Love is like dew on a rose. It disappears when the sun beats down on it. It falls to the ground when shaken up. It happens to everyone without reason. Marriage is a different ball game. Falling in love is as easy as breathing. Marry someone you cant live without not someone you can live with. To keep a fire burning, we add more fuel. Dont let your egos fizzle the spark out. The bubble needn't burst, if your head rules your emotions. Dream, dare and do fall in love. It's a whole new world!