I was a pre-teen when I first read the story of the nightingale who gave up its life, in the crossfire of love between a young boy and a girl. The story goes, 'A young man loved a girl very much. This girl had one condition to accept his love. He had to get her a red rose in the deepest shade of red. The deeper the shade, the stronger his love for her. A nightingale who had never found love was perched on a rose bush saw the scene that transpired in front of her eyes and vowed to help him, even though the young man didn't know the nightingale. The rose bush that was the nightingale's hearth loved her very much. The rose bush told her there is only one thing possible to bloom a red rose in that season of white roses. The nightingale had to sing the sweetest song she could with her breast pierced against a thorn of the rose bush at midnight till dawn. The nightingale decided to sacrifice her life and sang the sweetest song she had ever sung that night about the glory of love with her breast pressed firmly but surely against that piercing thorn. At dawn, when all her blood had drained from her body, the most beautiful red rose bloomed in the deepest scarlet. She gazed upon the red rose before she gave up her life in the arms of her rose bush. A few hours later, the worried, pensive young man passed by. He looked at the rose bush and saw the most beautiful rose that he had ever seen. The young man was overjoyed and plucked the rose. A few minutes later, he saw his love coming towards him with her arm around the Mayor's son. He ran to her and presented her with the rose of deepest scarlet. She looked at him with eyes dripping in sarcasm and said, 'Flowers don't make a girl's best friend, diamonds do.' The young man was livid and threw the rose down on the cobble stoned pathway. He walked away without looking back. A horse-cart came clattering down the path and trampled the rose. The rose bush that saw all this was heart broken for the loss of his nightingale who gave up her life to save the young man's love. It withered and died that very day.'
There are many lessons to learn about love from this story. The rose bush never once told the nightingale when she was alive that he loved her very much. If only it had, the nightingale would have been happy to bask in the love of the rose bush for her, than give up her life for another's crush. The nightingale could have waited for love to happen and move her in her own life, than sacrifice her life for another's so called "love". The young man should have realised that you cant do anything that would move someone to fall in love with you. It's simple either we love someone or we dont. The young woman valued wealth over love. Such love is transcient and lasts as long as fortunes do.
There is no perfect love in this world and every heart is but a rose on a cobble stoned pathway. Yet even in this bleak winter called life, love is the spring that brings forth new life in every soul. Bruised and battered we may be, but we must dare to love.
Monday, January 9, 2012
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
Clearing the clutter
There are lots of times, things lie in an unorganized fashion at home. They range from toys, books to even buttons. Each year I have tried to make a conscious effort to change that. Here are some daily use items which can aid in organizing your clutter.
1. Plastic storage bucket – very useful in holding laundry as well as outdoor play equipment such as bats, rackets etc.
2. 4 in 1 toothbrush holder – Children’s stationary can be sorted out in each compartment. One to hold pens, pencils, crayons or sketch pens and paint brushes.
3. Over the door shoe racks – My fetish for shoes forced me to introduce this one to my closet. Any bright canvas cloth with compartments much like an apron with many pockets can serve this purpose. In a child’s room it adds a design element to the closet.
4. Wire hangers – They make the best bangle racks and can accommodate unlimited numbers.
5. Small square basins – Useful in storing small toys like dinky cars, kitchen set etc
6. 6 in 1 masala storage boxes – Useful in storing stationary items like pins, staples, buttons etc.
7. Discarded rectangular tray – Organizing envelopes, different kinds of cellotape and elastic etc becomes very easy.
8. An old terracotta long vase or pot – Storing your brooms in your service verandah has never been more stylish
9. Spice bags – Most of us overstock on spices and find them losing their aroma in a while. Tiny spice bags can be made and kept within the men’s closet to preserve the clothes from pests.
10. Grain galatta – Fill an old wine bottle(with a cork) with different coloured grain and spices and place on an open kitchen shelf or in the entry point of the house. Watch the colours of your kitty party go green!!
Enjoy your spring cleaning and always remember the age old saying “Cleanliness is next to Godliness”. This is basically the Zen of life!!
1. Plastic storage bucket – very useful in holding laundry as well as outdoor play equipment such as bats, rackets etc.
2. 4 in 1 toothbrush holder – Children’s stationary can be sorted out in each compartment. One to hold pens, pencils, crayons or sketch pens and paint brushes.
3. Over the door shoe racks – My fetish for shoes forced me to introduce this one to my closet. Any bright canvas cloth with compartments much like an apron with many pockets can serve this purpose. In a child’s room it adds a design element to the closet.
4. Wire hangers – They make the best bangle racks and can accommodate unlimited numbers.
5. Small square basins – Useful in storing small toys like dinky cars, kitchen set etc
6. 6 in 1 masala storage boxes – Useful in storing stationary items like pins, staples, buttons etc.
7. Discarded rectangular tray – Organizing envelopes, different kinds of cellotape and elastic etc becomes very easy.
8. An old terracotta long vase or pot – Storing your brooms in your service verandah has never been more stylish
9. Spice bags – Most of us overstock on spices and find them losing their aroma in a while. Tiny spice bags can be made and kept within the men’s closet to preserve the clothes from pests.
10. Grain galatta – Fill an old wine bottle(with a cork) with different coloured grain and spices and place on an open kitchen shelf or in the entry point of the house. Watch the colours of your kitty party go green!!
Enjoy your spring cleaning and always remember the age old saying “Cleanliness is next to Godliness”. This is basically the Zen of life!!
Monday, May 30, 2011
Cupcakes and coffee
I asked a friend recently how she would like to celebrate. She said, definitely with "death by chocolate cake" and champagne. I asked myself this, is life that much of a celebration? If it is not, shouldn't it be?
The reality however is, I cant even eat three wedges of "death by chocolate" cake. Neither can I finish a bottle of bubbly. So why do all the good moments of life have to be sickeningly sweet? We celebrate anniversaries, birthdays, promotions, births, deaths, new homes and what have you. These are milestones in life but don't necessarily have to touch us in a place called our soul. Do we ever celebrate ourselves? Do we ever celebrate the stupid grin we woke up with. Do we ever celebrate the smell of rain?
The things that put a smile deep in our soul are the simple things of life. They stem from a very simple fact - All human beings are capable of love, send out love and expect an equal measure in return. Whenever we send that love out and it returns back in equal measure, now i.e a celebration of life as we know it.
Its like cupcakes and coffee. Light, refreshing, tasty and wholesome.
That kind of love is definitely out there. Dont die with a super rich chocolate cake or with too much bubbly. Just find your flavour of cupcake and coffee. They are both simple foods, can be found in endless combinations and taste great in all flavours. :-)
The reality however is, I cant even eat three wedges of "death by chocolate" cake. Neither can I finish a bottle of bubbly. So why do all the good moments of life have to be sickeningly sweet? We celebrate anniversaries, birthdays, promotions, births, deaths, new homes and what have you. These are milestones in life but don't necessarily have to touch us in a place called our soul. Do we ever celebrate ourselves? Do we ever celebrate the stupid grin we woke up with. Do we ever celebrate the smell of rain?
The things that put a smile deep in our soul are the simple things of life. They stem from a very simple fact - All human beings are capable of love, send out love and expect an equal measure in return. Whenever we send that love out and it returns back in equal measure, now i.e a celebration of life as we know it.
Its like cupcakes and coffee. Light, refreshing, tasty and wholesome.
That kind of love is definitely out there. Dont die with a super rich chocolate cake or with too much bubbly. Just find your flavour of cupcake and coffee. They are both simple foods, can be found in endless combinations and taste great in all flavours. :-)
Requiem for Love
When does love die?
Is its grave in the unsaid goodbye?
Or in the silence of the arguments that you resign?
Its probably in the gaps you dont mind.
Silent tears fall at night.
Some lose it in the lost opportunities of passion.
Sport ego to love, the latest fashion.
But for most, its in this........
Que sera sera, whatever will be will be.
Is its grave in the unsaid goodbye?
Or in the silence of the arguments that you resign?
Its probably in the gaps you dont mind.
Silent tears fall at night.
Some lose it in the lost opportunities of passion.
Sport ego to love, the latest fashion.
But for most, its in this........
Que sera sera, whatever will be will be.
Sunday, September 5, 2010
What I have learnt from children
Its funny how we want to be so not 12 going on 13 when we find our first crush( or when our first crush finds us). We want to get out of our ugly pupas and become beautiful butterflies. We consciously evolve our language skills in order to be taken seriously, dress in colours and clothes that can pass us for a college goer at 16....with years of trying to sound serious we lose our fun side seriously.
I have always been amazed about the way adults and children smile in photographs? The difference always lies in their eyes. We can always argue this point as adults take in so many things in life and children dont have the brunt of life in their faces. As I see it, there's just this one thing - the ability to smile from your heart irrespective of where you are, who is with you, what troubles you and what is left undone. Children have that ability to laugh with gay abandon even in the middle of tears and reprimand. It comes from inner peace and the ability to love oneself with all you have in you.
In the mundanity and humdrum of lives filled with something to do always, learning to stop once in a while and smile is not such a bad thing. There are those small joys of life that we all have as children, and as teenagers. Teaching our children to have fun while they remain in responsibility is a very good thing in life. The only way they can learn not to take themselves too seriously is from us and through us.
Keeping the child in me alive and well is serious work. It takes constant effort to stay chin up and live wholly everyday. It takes a constant cultivation of a right attitude. It takes brute determination on bad days look above the circumstances of the day and only look forward to the morrow's blue skies.
Life is all about the journey not the destination. Most of us may never be movers or shakers but we can always move and groove even with two left feet. Life is nothing but love, laughter and letting go of ego. So smile cos you never know who is falling for it ;)
I have always been amazed about the way adults and children smile in photographs? The difference always lies in their eyes. We can always argue this point as adults take in so many things in life and children dont have the brunt of life in their faces. As I see it, there's just this one thing - the ability to smile from your heart irrespective of where you are, who is with you, what troubles you and what is left undone. Children have that ability to laugh with gay abandon even in the middle of tears and reprimand. It comes from inner peace and the ability to love oneself with all you have in you.
In the mundanity and humdrum of lives filled with something to do always, learning to stop once in a while and smile is not such a bad thing. There are those small joys of life that we all have as children, and as teenagers. Teaching our children to have fun while they remain in responsibility is a very good thing in life. The only way they can learn not to take themselves too seriously is from us and through us.
Keeping the child in me alive and well is serious work. It takes constant effort to stay chin up and live wholly everyday. It takes a constant cultivation of a right attitude. It takes brute determination on bad days look above the circumstances of the day and only look forward to the morrow's blue skies.
Life is all about the journey not the destination. Most of us may never be movers or shakers but we can always move and groove even with two left feet. Life is nothing but love, laughter and letting go of ego. So smile cos you never know who is falling for it ;)
Thursday, June 24, 2010
I want to be ....
All of us remember our kindergarten dreams. I wanted to be a pilot, an air hostess, archaeologist, doctor and the list was endless till I graduated and planted myself in the software industry. I believe today, I am transplanted in my true calling as a writer. My meandering mind apart, let’s take a look at some very promising, not run-off-the-mill careers.
The past has its own charm and mysticism and that never ceases to fascinate us. Some movies are tribute to this fascination that spans generations. I cant think of any better than the Indiana Jones series. My son would disagree and vote for “The Mummy”. In a country like India, the study of archaeology is very important. Archaeological Courses in India consist of a detailed study of illustrated manuscripts, fossils, inscriptions and coins. Numismatics, epigraphy, archives and museology are also important branches of study included in archaeological courses in India. For the eager-beaver, a three years bachelor's degree in archaeology is the basic qualification required. A post graduate degree or diploma in archaeology or further research in allied fields of study can also be pursued. Graduates in any discipline can do this. However, graduates in history, social sciences like sociology, anthropology are given preference. While many universities in India offer courses in archaeology, there are also institutes outside the country providing these courses.Universityof London (UCL), the Cardiff School of History and Archaeology (UK), Bournemouth University (UK), Institute Of Egyptian Artand Archaeology at the University of Memphis are some of the reliable institutions promising a wide range of career prospects for aspiring candidates.
Just as a coin has two sides, a child also has two sides. Most parents fall into the trap of ignoring the child’s lack of interest in a particular area of development. That area can be a hobby, a sport or even academics. What if that area were academics? There is a life where a person can dream and realize that dream without being needed to shine academically. What career options lie for non-academically inclined young adults? You would be very surprised at how big this avenue is.
All roads lead to the cinema theatre. Wondering why? Even in a down economy who wouldn’t like to watch a movie or their favorite serial?Cinematography is big time in India and around the world these days. Institutions and schools for cinematography can be found all over the world. Some of the courses one can do in cinematography are acting, 3D Animation, screenwriting, cinematography, non-linear editing, direction/filmmaking, sound recording and engineering. Most of these courses would require an undergraduate degree in arts or sciences. Some diploma courses can be done after std.XII, leading to further courses. I am sure the cynic in you is wondering what the moolah would be end of the day. Anything between Rs.8000-Rs.30,000 for a start and definitely upward in a very short span of time.
Any course is possible only with good health. “Keeping fit” is the motto on everyone’s mind today. Most of us would have tried it our own way but reluctantly admitted that we need professional help and headed to a gym. Fitness is serious business these days and is a career with plenty of opportunities especially in a country passionate about sports. To become a fitness trainer, one needs to apply to fitness institutes after completing 18 years. A basic knowledge in core subjects like fitness training, human anatomy and physiology, basic nutrition and posture training would be imparted. A diploma course in Fitness Management (DFM) facilitates candidates to branch off to their core interest within the industry like fitness training, physiotherapy and nutrition. An undergraduate from any stream can apply. A good fitness guru needs to keep abreast with all kinds of new fitness techniques evolving. He/she also needs to be a people person. Dedication is the key to success in this career. Some of the best trainers earn close to Rs.60,000 and more in this country.
Well for those who are better of taking a seat, there are loads of options too. Hobbies make careers too these days. My hobby is embroidery. There have been days when I have toyed with the idea of starting a commercial embroidery unit of my own. A friend of mine has cooking into a commercial venture. Today, she runs a state-of-the-art cookery school from her home. There is a lot of scope for arts. Arts and our hobbies sometimes give us the satisfaction mainstream professions don’t. A painter can earn much more than any management guru, software professional or even a doctor. Ever heard of Commercial fine arts? Commercial Fine Arts is a relatively recent phenomenon in India which refers to the use of different art media for commercial functions. The term 'commercial fine arts' broadly focuses on painting, sculpting, applied art ,graphic interior design, ceramic design, mural design, metal craft, pottery design and painting. An individual needs to have keen observatory sense, perseverance, marketing skills and indomitable will power to pursue a career in this field of fine arts. Pragmatism, originality, selling skills and excellence are the hallmark of a commercial artist, who essentially should be creative and original. Students interested in a career in this exciting field should enroll in Commercial Fine Arts Courses in India. More than often a course in Fine Arts is related with that in Commercial Fine Arts. For pursuing a Bachelors Degree course in Fine Arts, one must have passed the Higher Secondary Examinations or 10+ 2 level. Besides this academic qualification, the individual should have a creative bent of mind and an eye for detail. For acquiring a Post Graduate degree in Commercial Fine Arts, you need to be a graduate in Fine Arts. In India, individuals having a degree in commercial fine arts can choose a career either in designing, art studios or the advertisement industry. A career as a graphic designer churning out designs and logos for visual aids in commercial houses and making illustrations in books or magazines for a publishing house can also be a viable option. You can also opt for designing the non-verbal presentations for television programs involving trade figure analysis, election results, etc. After completing Commercial Fine Arts Courses in India, an artist can also design stamps and letter heads for government organizations and remain gainfully employed. Many advertisement and software firms in India look for experts in commercial fine arts for the post of 'Graphic Equaliser'. An artist specializing in commercial fine arts can also draw and design billboards, cinema slides, technical catalogues, window slides and the like. He can also work as an art director in theatre and film productions.
A lot of people leave lucrative jobs to start organic farms. End of the day, it is not how much you earn with your toil but its how much your toil has been worth to you personally that matters. Parents envision their children to be all-rounders and winners. Sometimes, the pressure to be someone they cannot be has drastic results. The simple explanation for so many teen suicides. These young lives preferred being snuffed out than being snubbed every single day. If your child can sing encourage his/her voice to make it to the Indian Idol. If your child is the best dancer you have seen that could be where his/her future lies. Dance along and give them the opportunity to hone their skill. A child with a passion will excel. A little encouragement, a helping hand and reasonable financial support can definitely make your child a winner everyday.
The past has its own charm and mysticism and that never ceases to fascinate us. Some movies are tribute to this fascination that spans generations. I cant think of any better than the Indiana Jones series. My son would disagree and vote for “The Mummy”. In a country like India, the study of archaeology is very important. Archaeological Courses in India consist of a detailed study of illustrated manuscripts, fossils, inscriptions and coins. Numismatics, epigraphy, archives and museology are also important branches of study included in archaeological courses in India. For the eager-beaver, a three years bachelor's degree in archaeology is the basic qualification required. A post graduate degree or diploma in archaeology or further research in allied fields of study can also be pursued. Graduates in any discipline can do this. However, graduates in history, social sciences like sociology, anthropology are given preference. While many universities in India offer courses in archaeology, there are also institutes outside the country providing these courses.Universityof London (UCL), the Cardiff School of History and Archaeology (UK), Bournemouth University (UK), Institute Of Egyptian Artand Archaeology at the University of Memphis are some of the reliable institutions promising a wide range of career prospects for aspiring candidates.
Just as a coin has two sides, a child also has two sides. Most parents fall into the trap of ignoring the child’s lack of interest in a particular area of development. That area can be a hobby, a sport or even academics. What if that area were academics? There is a life where a person can dream and realize that dream without being needed to shine academically. What career options lie for non-academically inclined young adults? You would be very surprised at how big this avenue is.
All roads lead to the cinema theatre. Wondering why? Even in a down economy who wouldn’t like to watch a movie or their favorite serial?Cinematography is big time in India and around the world these days. Institutions and schools for cinematography can be found all over the world. Some of the courses one can do in cinematography are acting, 3D Animation, screenwriting, cinematography, non-linear editing, direction/filmmaking, sound recording and engineering. Most of these courses would require an undergraduate degree in arts or sciences. Some diploma courses can be done after std.XII, leading to further courses. I am sure the cynic in you is wondering what the moolah would be end of the day. Anything between Rs.8000-Rs.30,000 for a start and definitely upward in a very short span of time.
Any course is possible only with good health. “Keeping fit” is the motto on everyone’s mind today. Most of us would have tried it our own way but reluctantly admitted that we need professional help and headed to a gym. Fitness is serious business these days and is a career with plenty of opportunities especially in a country passionate about sports. To become a fitness trainer, one needs to apply to fitness institutes after completing 18 years. A basic knowledge in core subjects like fitness training, human anatomy and physiology, basic nutrition and posture training would be imparted. A diploma course in Fitness Management (DFM) facilitates candidates to branch off to their core interest within the industry like fitness training, physiotherapy and nutrition. An undergraduate from any stream can apply. A good fitness guru needs to keep abreast with all kinds of new fitness techniques evolving. He/she also needs to be a people person. Dedication is the key to success in this career. Some of the best trainers earn close to Rs.60,000 and more in this country.
Well for those who are better of taking a seat, there are loads of options too. Hobbies make careers too these days. My hobby is embroidery. There have been days when I have toyed with the idea of starting a commercial embroidery unit of my own. A friend of mine has cooking into a commercial venture. Today, she runs a state-of-the-art cookery school from her home. There is a lot of scope for arts. Arts and our hobbies sometimes give us the satisfaction mainstream professions don’t. A painter can earn much more than any management guru, software professional or even a doctor. Ever heard of Commercial fine arts? Commercial Fine Arts is a relatively recent phenomenon in India which refers to the use of different art media for commercial functions. The term 'commercial fine arts' broadly focuses on painting, sculpting, applied art ,graphic interior design, ceramic design, mural design, metal craft, pottery design and painting. An individual needs to have keen observatory sense, perseverance, marketing skills and indomitable will power to pursue a career in this field of fine arts. Pragmatism, originality, selling skills and excellence are the hallmark of a commercial artist, who essentially should be creative and original. Students interested in a career in this exciting field should enroll in Commercial Fine Arts Courses in India. More than often a course in Fine Arts is related with that in Commercial Fine Arts. For pursuing a Bachelors Degree course in Fine Arts, one must have passed the Higher Secondary Examinations or 10+ 2 level. Besides this academic qualification, the individual should have a creative bent of mind and an eye for detail. For acquiring a Post Graduate degree in Commercial Fine Arts, you need to be a graduate in Fine Arts. In India, individuals having a degree in commercial fine arts can choose a career either in designing, art studios or the advertisement industry. A career as a graphic designer churning out designs and logos for visual aids in commercial houses and making illustrations in books or magazines for a publishing house can also be a viable option. You can also opt for designing the non-verbal presentations for television programs involving trade figure analysis, election results, etc. After completing Commercial Fine Arts Courses in India, an artist can also design stamps and letter heads for government organizations and remain gainfully employed. Many advertisement and software firms in India look for experts in commercial fine arts for the post of 'Graphic Equaliser'. An artist specializing in commercial fine arts can also draw and design billboards, cinema slides, technical catalogues, window slides and the like. He can also work as an art director in theatre and film productions.
A lot of people leave lucrative jobs to start organic farms. End of the day, it is not how much you earn with your toil but its how much your toil has been worth to you personally that matters. Parents envision their children to be all-rounders and winners. Sometimes, the pressure to be someone they cannot be has drastic results. The simple explanation for so many teen suicides. These young lives preferred being snuffed out than being snubbed every single day. If your child can sing encourage his/her voice to make it to the Indian Idol. If your child is the best dancer you have seen that could be where his/her future lies. Dance along and give them the opportunity to hone their skill. A child with a passion will excel. A little encouragement, a helping hand and reasonable financial support can definitely make your child a winner everyday.
Friday, April 9, 2010
Crazy little thing called Love!!!
It doesn’t take genius to figure out when you’re in love. When the butterflies have settled down and the love train chugs off, trouble is but a trifle away. Most love birds decide to take it a notch higher by getting married.
Marriage is not a bed of roses and that is one of the truest statements down the ages. Marriage is built on two founding pillars - love and trust. If love dies, trust dies with it. The vice versa is also true. Your spouse has to be a friend first, a compelling love and the reason that makes tomorrow worthwhile. It’s difficult to keep the fire burning through the entire span of a marriage. Pressures of work, children, extended family, health conditions and constant friction on mundane issues bring in a gap. It is easy to carry on living a lie but it is detrimental to physical and emotional well being. Some people suffer from clinical depression when boredom, intense sadness, helplessness or sheer disappointment set in. In this gloomy picture what makes love shine through rose tinted glasses?
Man is a gregarious animal as we all know. Scientifically being in love is a healthy thing. It improves circulation, boosts emotional well being, which in turn, improves immunity. It leaves one with a smile on your face and pushes aging a little further down the road. It makes your heart stronger and your blood pressure improves. We all know that science doesn't shape our lives and decisions do. Just as much as we would like to see our careers grow with constant and consistent hard work, marriage too needs constant and consistent effort. It is difficult to stay anchored in everyday life with emotional stress. Emotional stress ruins everything and translates itself in direct and indirect ways into various areas of our life. Our beings groan when we come in contact with our families, friends and even our professions. Restlessness comes in once disappointment leaves. The result – extra marital affairs in reality or fantasy.
The most common complaint in any relationship is acceptance. Expecting and forming a framework, for the person to fit in, is wrong. When we were shown objects as children we never argued that a square was a circle. The same rule applies. Accepting a person unconditionally having no expectations is what unconditional love chooses to achieve. At the same time, no one can live with a sadist, cheat or a cold person eternally in perfect peace. We need to be our own critic. Constant self examination into the inner man is necessary. Keeping arguments objective is necessary too. Constant emotional friction leads to nowhere and its better to part company than be compelled to irrational decisions.
Love is like dew on a rose. It disappears when the sun beats down on it. It falls to the ground when shaken up. It happens to everyone without reason. Marriage is a different ball game. Falling in love is as easy as breathing. Marry someone you cant live without not someone you can live with. To keep a fire burning, we add more fuel. Dont let your egos fizzle the spark out. The bubble needn't burst, if your head rules your emotions. Dream, dare and do fall in love. It's a whole new world!
Marriage is not a bed of roses and that is one of the truest statements down the ages. Marriage is built on two founding pillars - love and trust. If love dies, trust dies with it. The vice versa is also true. Your spouse has to be a friend first, a compelling love and the reason that makes tomorrow worthwhile. It’s difficult to keep the fire burning through the entire span of a marriage. Pressures of work, children, extended family, health conditions and constant friction on mundane issues bring in a gap. It is easy to carry on living a lie but it is detrimental to physical and emotional well being. Some people suffer from clinical depression when boredom, intense sadness, helplessness or sheer disappointment set in. In this gloomy picture what makes love shine through rose tinted glasses?
Man is a gregarious animal as we all know. Scientifically being in love is a healthy thing. It improves circulation, boosts emotional well being, which in turn, improves immunity. It leaves one with a smile on your face and pushes aging a little further down the road. It makes your heart stronger and your blood pressure improves. We all know that science doesn't shape our lives and decisions do. Just as much as we would like to see our careers grow with constant and consistent hard work, marriage too needs constant and consistent effort. It is difficult to stay anchored in everyday life with emotional stress. Emotional stress ruins everything and translates itself in direct and indirect ways into various areas of our life. Our beings groan when we come in contact with our families, friends and even our professions. Restlessness comes in once disappointment leaves. The result – extra marital affairs in reality or fantasy.
The most common complaint in any relationship is acceptance. Expecting and forming a framework, for the person to fit in, is wrong. When we were shown objects as children we never argued that a square was a circle. The same rule applies. Accepting a person unconditionally having no expectations is what unconditional love chooses to achieve. At the same time, no one can live with a sadist, cheat or a cold person eternally in perfect peace. We need to be our own critic. Constant self examination into the inner man is necessary. Keeping arguments objective is necessary too. Constant emotional friction leads to nowhere and its better to part company than be compelled to irrational decisions.
Love is like dew on a rose. It disappears when the sun beats down on it. It falls to the ground when shaken up. It happens to everyone without reason. Marriage is a different ball game. Falling in love is as easy as breathing. Marry someone you cant live without not someone you can live with. To keep a fire burning, we add more fuel. Dont let your egos fizzle the spark out. The bubble needn't burst, if your head rules your emotions. Dream, dare and do fall in love. It's a whole new world!
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